After the Monday episode of The Bachelor, a plethora of different opinions saturated the internet. However, the majority of people seemed to agree on one point: Ben’s skinny-dipping with Courtney was inconsiderate in terms of the feelings of the other women. In fact, many people assumed that Ben must be completely into Courtney and hence doesn’t really care how the other women might feel about his intimate moment with her.
In his blog in People Magazine, Ben wrote the next day:
“I won’t spend a ton of time on the skinny-dipping, because I feel like I’ve talked about it so much in the press! What I will say is that I try to focus on all these relationships singularly. It’s odd to date more than one woman and in order to do so, you have to try to treat each one individually. If I were in Puerto Rico with a beautiful woman I was dating and she wanted to skinny dip, I would be a fool to decline. I treated this situation the same way.
I will admit that at the time I wasn’t thinking of the other women and how it would make them feel, and I’m sorry for that, but I can’t blame Courtney for going out of her way to spend more time with me – that’s why we are all here.”
At times, it is very easy to make misleading assumptions based on what we see on the show. Granted, the popular opinion is always based on seemingly obvious things. In this case, it appears obvious that Ben is sexually attracted to Courtney, or so it may appear due to her “aggressive” personality. I get the impression she was throwing herself at him, i.e. putting him on the spot intentionally. Therefore, there might be other reasons that prompted Ben to go along with Courtney’s seductive plans.
To go skinny-dipping or not to go was actually a Catch-22 situation. In either case Ben would be scrutinized. Consider a scenario in which Ben told Courtney he wasn’t up for it. A beautiful young woman begs a guy for intimacy and he tells her no. Can you imagine the ‘raised brows’ over such a decision? The next day, all the bloggers and media outlets would be no-doubt questioning his masculinity! He would never see the end of it. I can almost see Reality Steve making jokes about Ben not being man enough to satisfy Courtney’s wishes. Steve, as he likes to brag, would do her in a minute.
In truth, being portrayed as not masculine is one of the worst things that can happen to a young man. Bottom line: (for a guy) it is better to be remembered as a lecher than a limp-wristed wimp. Thus, in the end, Ben chose what every “normal” guy would choose to do when a beautiful woman asks to go skinny-dipping. Otherwise, he would be seen as a fool – nothing more, nothing less!
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