Although on numerous occasions Emily Maynard insisted she didn’t want to be the next Bachelorette, there seems to be a major 180 degree turnaround. Today (January 11, 2012), Reality Steve has announced that the Season 8 Bachelorette will definitely be Emily Maynard! Like the last four seasons of the Bachelorette, the filming is scheduled to begin in March.
Reality Steve: “Before we get into the why and how of all this, I think one thing that might ease a couple people’s mind regarding Emily’s decision to change her mind comes in the fact that they are moving locations for filming for the first time in about 10 seasons. The show will be shot in Charlotte, North Carolina. Of course at some point, I’m sure they will take off and head to different locations, but I’m guessing they’re going to spend a good amount of time filming in North Carolina. My guess is that was a huge selling point for Emily, especially with a young daughter that she’s been adamant about protecting ever since Brad’s season.”
Since her alleged break-up with fiancé, Brad Womack, Emily has been seen with a number of men who could be described as possessing the highest utility value. Nevertheless, she is still single and looking for love. So what keeps Emily Maynard from finding love amidst innumerous options? You may be surprised, but research suggests that this over-abundance of choices often leads to decreased satisfaction and reduced happiness.
The former first lady, Barbara Bush, once said: “I married the first man I ever kissed.” In fact, at least a third of Americans prefer to marry their first partner rather than continuously searching for better alternatives. This was the case when Emily met Ricky Hendrick, though they weren’t fated to get married due to a tragic accident. With Ricky, Emily simply followed her ‘gut’ feelings without trying to figure out all the pros and cons of his personality. In short, she just fell in love with Ricky, regardless of his good or bad qualities.
However, it seems that since then Emily has disregarded her heart, progressively relying on “reasoning.” In other words, she became compulsively obsessed with trying to make the most perfect or right choice; which fits her perfectionist personality. She lost her center and now lacks self-confidence.
You can’t deny the wisdom in this quote from Blaise Pascal: “The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing.” In other words, our heart bears an intelligence of its own, which is not accessible to logic or reasoning. The following thought experiment called “Robot Love” clearly demonstrates that all efforts to deliberately reason out the best mate from a number of alternatives usually fail.
Imagine that by 2025 scientists developed robots that not only looked like humans, but acted like humans and were ready to reproduce. In one of their case studies, a male robot was programmed to find the best mate out of 10,000 female robots, create a family and take care of little baby robots. The male robot became known as the maximizer. (Keep in mind Emily’s dilemma). Early on, the robot detected 500 features on which female robots varied. The scientists made a calculation to find out when the robot will be able to make the best possible choice. To their surprise, the findings revealed that nobody would remain alive by the time the robot completed its calculations. Furthermore, the robot’s final choice wouldn’t be the best anyway.
Bottom line: the male robot was caught up in endless calculations and could not make up its mind. The main problem is the robot doesn’t have a heart, hence, it cannot ‘feel’ the right choice; i.e. it lacks intuition. In terms of Emily, she is out of contact with her female side, that is, her heart. Therefore, if Emily is going to succeed in finding a true mate on The Bachelorette, she must learn to trust her feelings again – which begins with loving herself.
NAHU & YELENA’S JOURNALISM~
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